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Urge surfing for relationship anxiety is a dialectical behavior therapy-based mindfulness technique that lets emotional urges — the pull to check their profile, re-read the messages, send the…
anxious attachmentYou already know you shouldn’t. You know it won’t help. You know what you’ll find — or worse, what you won’t find — and you know how it…
urge awarenessThere is a moment you might not know exists yet. It is the gap between urge and action — the space between the pull toward your phone, the…
anxious attachmentYou’ve already read it. You know what it says. And yet you open the thread again. Re-reading messages – old texts, a conversation that ended badly, something they…
limerenceLimerence and love can coexist. You can love someone and feel limerence for them at the same time, and you can love a partner while feeling limerence for…
anxious attachmentYou have already looked. You know nothing has changed. And yet you are back — refreshing their profile, opening the thread again, checking to see if they have…
limerenceIf you’re here because one person takes up most of your thoughts, and you check their profile even after promising yourself you won’t, there is a name for…
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