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You know what you’re about to do. You know why you’re going to do it. You know how you’ll feel afterward. And you do it anyway. You check…
no contactThe question “why do I miss someone who hurt me?” has a neurological answer: the brain’s attachment system tracks relational bonds by their presence and intensity, not their…
no contactThe urge to reach out after no contact is the attachment system’s response to having a significant emotional loop interrupted. It is not evidence that no contact is…
compulsive checkingStopping yourself from sending a text you’ll regret is hardest in the moment the urge is strongest — when it’s already typed, the pull feels necessary, and part…
limerenceObsessing over someone is an involuntary, intrusive pull toward a specific person that persists despite your efforts to redirect attention — returning even when you are distracted, have…
practitionersBetween-session support tools are resources a client uses outside appointments to carry the work of therapy into daily life. The most useful ones meet the client in the…
urge awarenessUrge surfing for relationship anxiety is a dialectical behavior therapy-based mindfulness technique that lets emotional urges — the pull to check their profile, re-read the messages, send the…
anxious attachmentYou already know you shouldn’t. You know it won’t help. You know what you’ll find — or worse, what you won’t find — and you know how it…
anxious attachmentYou’ve already read it. You know what it says. And yet you open the thread again. Re-reading messages – old texts, a conversation that ended badly, something they…
limerenceLimerence and love can coexist. You can love someone and feel limerence for them at the same time, and you can love a partner while feeling limerence for…
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